Handling the week after a death. A whole new life is ahead.

One of the best things to do, when you are grieving, besides, take a little time, and have a few cries, is keep yourself busy.  Either than, or reach out to someone else, who is having their own personal issues, and be there for them.  It’s what helps keep your mind clear and less focused on yourself.

This week, I have been helping my mom pack the house, here in VA, because she is moving permanently to FLA in two weeks.  So each morning, I have been going there, and going thru things that have collected over the last 35+ years.

My mother is not a “things” person, so she is basically dividing up the items, among my brother and I, based on things we might need or want.   I’m the sentimental one (or the hoarder, like my dad), so I tend to want to keep all these type items.

Lucky for me, going thru the items and packing them away, has not bothered me in any type of emotional way.  But probably cause, I am focused on “getting the task done at hand”.

But there are issues, that have come up.  Thoughts that have come up.  Reality that seems to have now surfaced, now that my dad has gone.  Of course, most of these things, I will opt to keep to myself, at the moment.

However, one, I will share.  A whole new life begins for me now !  For most my life, I have always been real close to my dad.  I’ve made a lot of decisions, based on my dad (and my mom too).  And the last 3 years, he’s been sick, on and off, so I keep traveling, down to a minimum, in case I needed to run off to FLA instead.

My mother is a tough ol’ Joe, and she’s looking forward to her new life, alone.  So now, with her independence, that actually gives me more independence.

So now, what will I do with my life ?  What do I want to be when I grow up (know, I'm 54) ?  Lots to think about, but not all today.  For now, I need to get my mom all packed up, cause she leaves in 2 weeks.  Then I’ve got to re-arrange my own home furniture, cause my mom gave me many items. 

Then focus heavily on losing weight !  There’s my “internal reasoning” of why I have let this weight climb.  And yes, those reasons are no longer here !